On Friday I decided to pick up a book that I had almost finished but had abandoned for the last couple of months. Honestly, I wasn’t even that into the book, I just wanted to finish off the last three chapters so it wouldn’t add up on my list of books I started and never finished. The book is called “Praying For Your Future Husband” by Robin Jones Gunn and Tricia Goyer. The particular chapter that I picked up on talked about making a “list” of qualities that you wanted in your future husband. Now I have heard lots of people talk about doing this but I always thought it was kind of silly so I never made one myself. However, God had other plans for my heart on Friday morning.
I began doing the exercise of circling 10 qualities from their page full of wonderful qualities a person can have. After circling my 11 (I couldn’t narrow it down) qualities, I looked them over and went over verbally in my head why I couldn’t marry someone who lacked those qualities. Above all, the one that stood out the most was “seeks God’s wisdom.” To me, this was clearly the most important on the list because if someone is truly seeking God’s wisdom, the rest of the qualities i.e: faithful, loyal, loving, patient, etc – will follow suit.
After reading over my list I felt pretty good about my new expectations for my future husband… until God popped a little thought into my head.
Are you seeking My wisdom?
See, if you would have asked me that question two years ago when I was a student at a private Christian college surrounded by like-minded people lifting me up and encouraging my walk with Christ, I would have said an easy “Yes.” Two years ago I was seeking God’s wisdom. More than that, I was on FIRE for Jesus. I was longing to find His will and His purpose for my life.
Then the “real world” happened. And dating and getting to know guys in the “real world” happened. I told myself things like “ok well he’s not like, into God as much as I am so if you just downplay your faith for a little while it’ll probably by ok.”
I was making the conscious decision to hide my passion for Jesus because I thought it wasn’t what “they” would want in a girl. Well guess what? It’s not what they want in a girl. But I don’t care, because I don’t want “they“, I want a man who is
- seeking God’s wisdom
- cautious- does not make rash decisions (because impulsive is my middle name)
- trusting of God’s timing
Now this is where I’m supposed to say that I need to be a better woman of God and seek after His wisdom and be on fire for Jesus because I need to be the kind of woman that a man with those 11 qualities deserves.
I need to be a better woman and seek after God’s wisdom because it is what God deserves.
Don’t get me wrong, I still have every desire in my heart to get married and marry a godly man who has every one of those 11 qualities and more. However, my desire to serve the Lord needs to come from my wanting to please God, not my wanting to please a man (no matter how godly that man may be).
I have been so caught up in what this world wants of me instead of what my Heavenly Father wants for me. Ladies, join me in ditching what this world wants and even what a godly man wants you to be, and let’s start living for what God wants us to be.
She is clothed with strength and dignity,
and she laughs without fear of the future.